How to get over a breakup: Top 5 things to do
Breakups can be deadly painful sometimes. Especially when we have given all of us to someone else. All this continuous process of feeling love for someone occurs almost the same way we develop a drug addiction - if we end the addiction abruptly, it can be very painful. About 2 weeks ago, the person I was in love with broke up with me. At first it was very difficult but then with constant good night sleeps and support from friends I quickly moved on. Every time I rest less than I should, my mental health goes downhill and I have impulses to text the person who once I was in love with. Today, it was one of those days and I know I'll feel a bit worse until I have loads of energy again. The problem is that now I messaged the one I used to love and I'll have to start the whole process of moving on again. Therefore, I would like to share with you how you can deal with a breakup and move on as quickly as possible to achieve a happy state of mind. By the end of this post, you will understand that the main key to move on quickly is to be strong-minded.
Go back to the dating scene
It might sound like a bad idea, but it's one of the best things you can do to move on quickly. Most psychologists agree that joining the dating scene after a breakup can be very helpful. Why? It is exciting to meet new people and chat with different people and in the medium term you will realize that there are people out there much better than your ex. At first, you might find it a bad idea and you'll have negative thoughts such as "this person is not my type" or "this person is just not as nice as my ex" but you will soon understand that there are many people out there who are better and will care more for you.
During a long time you cared so much for someone to the point of putting that person first than you and above you. Love made you blind and all your love and support were focused on someone who didn't deserve your caring. Now it is time to be selfish and to love yourself. Focus on yourself and your goals and try to be the best version of yourself you can be. It is time to love yourself and to be selfish - being selfish is not always bad.
Set up professional goals and focus on your professional life
There's no better way to move on than to set up new goals, especially professional goals. Now it is the right time to think about you and what's best for your life. Think about all the things you want to achieve in your life and motivate yourself to start working NOW to achieve your goals. By the time you're closer to achieve your goals, you'll realize that time flew by and yet you've fully moved on from your breakup, you have achieved a lot in your life and possibly found someone better!
Spend more time with your friends and family
When you go through a breakup, you tend to isolate yourself from your friends and family because you're in a sad state of mind. However, that is the last thing you should do. Force yourself to spend more time with the people who make you laugh. Spend more time with the people you love. In the first few days, it will be a bit difficult to distract your thoughts from your ex, but as time passes by you'll feel better and better - keep your mind positive at all times and enjoy moments with your friends and family.
Be rational, logical and strong-minded
We all have an emotional side and a rational side. Some people are 50%-50%, others are more emotional than rational, and some people are more rational than emotional. It tends to be more difficult to move on for people who are more emotional than rational. But especially in this hard time, you need to try hard to prioritize your rational side and think about all the logical reasons why that person was not the right person for you as well as all the reasons why this relationship wouldn't work sooner or later. It is a good mental exercise to write down all these reasons and every time you're feeling down because of the breakup you can look at the list. A key aspect for you to be able to move on as quickly as possible is to be strong-minded. All the previous points of this list require you to have mental power to change your feelings and your negative state of mind. As we discussed previously, this is the time for you to be rational, selfish and focus on you and your goals. To do all of this you need extra mental power. You need to force yourself to be positive and strong-minded - it is difficult at first but it is very much worth it!
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